What is True Love ?

Today i really want to bring your attention to defining the four letter word that makes the world go around as some people do believe, LOVE... and what it truly means but i'll be pointing out points from David Richo, a professional and author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships.

I do hope this will open your eyes to insights and give proper answer to the questions you might have been pondering on for years.

Love is often confused with addiction, surrender, conquest, submission, or physical dependence – a five love killers. Therefore, there is a very good reason to ask what it is and how real love looks like. The true love is felt and shown as an unconditional care for each other. We love that person even if it does not meet our needs.
Such love reflects not only our own needs and expectations, but also commitment to the path of giving and receiving – says the David Richo author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. “Most people think of love as a feeling,” says David Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present ” In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships—one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on
becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.
4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

On the other hand, when our demands for love become insatiable , it’s a sign that we suspect that we are worthy of love. In that state of lack of self-worth, we feel constantly the need to prove ourselves that other loves us. Through the eyes of other we look narcissistic, but looking from perspective of compassion, it means that we have bad self-opinion.

– How can we overcome doubt in ourselves? Simple practice – to act on everything with love! Acting with love is, in fact, the reverse side of the need to love. People who believe they are worthy of love are people who love – says the author of the book and adds that this in itself liberating the ego, but it requires a unified conceptual framework – when between us and anyone else a conflict breaks out, we do not ask ourselves how to win but we invoke the unintentional love and act in  accordance with it.

Switching focus from concern for personal victory or revenge in an attempt to meet as many loves, brings bliss. When you feel the thrill of discovering that it is possible to create love in every thought, word and deed, soon you realize that we are all worthy of love. Because of the behavior of our new love toward ourselves, the others will love us more. Then we don’t have a need to show others how much we love them. Failure to love yourself on the contrary, brings us onto the path for slavery love. 

Waju

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